Meet Filipino Chief Cook Roy ‘Noy’ Yap.
He looks peculiar, does he?
Noy is a ship’s chief cook for more than ten years already. While he look like a funny villain on above photo, he is a Philippine modern hero.
When his ship celebrated Easter and Halloween at sea a year ago, he prepared mouth-watering foods for the crew.
Moreover, his artsy team also showcased their talents thru these cute fruit carvings and…having a jolly freaky costume party on board!?
I worked with Noy when I was still a deck rating. Personally, I know him as a responsible and loving father of his family. For him, his family is life’s greatest blessing; it is where life begins and where love never ends.
I learned from him that an affluent family has happy and contented family members.
Mag-ipon and mag-start ng negosyo kahit maliit muna, but that’s a very common answer and every OFW knew it, pero bakit out of 100% only 10% lang ang nakakagawa [mag-negosyo, so given the question, I will answer on my own perspective of how I understand the word ‘maunlad’ na pamilya… Some may quickly think pag sinabing maunlad is mayaman or mapera, but for me, ang pagiging maunlad is simply being happy and contented.
He’s questions even pushed me to ponder deeply on finding greener pastures abroad.
Lahat ng OFW umalis para guminhawa ang buhay ng mga anak at pamilya natin, but try to ask your children, happy ba sila na wala ka??? How about your wife? So kahit anong luho ang kaya nating ibigay, hindi prin sapat para maging masaya ang isang pamilya.”
Considering that he’s like an older brother to me, I asked him what tips he can share for someone like me who’s working abroad would eventually enter marriage life soon.
Champing at the bit, he shared these valuable points:
1.Stay online – Keep on communicating, hindi lang sa wife but dapat pati sa mga anak, go down to their level para maka-relate ka sa mga ginagawa nila, attend their needs, and make them feel na parang kasama mo prin sila lagi, that way, mababawasan ang absence mo, and mas maiiwasang hindi mag rebelde ang mga bata.
2.Avoid arguments – [Halimbawa] lalo na sa net kasi pag biglang nawala ang net, [kung] di ka pa makakapag-expain [ng nangyayari], patay na!…WW3 agad so if you are in need of deep conversation with your family, find the most convenient way or time na hindi mapuputol ang usapan ninyo, that way, mas maayos ng maayos ang problema.
3.Prioritize home –Pag uwi galing abroad, diretso agad sa pamilya, exempted yung mga kailangan pa mag report muna sa Manila bago umuwi sa probinsya. Make them feel sila ang top priority mo hindi ang barkada. Pagdating, bonding agad kayo buong pamilya.
4.Make lasting memories – Kids love mamasyal na buo ang family, they will treasure and keep it in their memory, so make a lot of it. Remember, pag down ang isang tao, just think [of] happy thoughts. It helps! Hindi kailangan maging magastos. Picnic o family da [at], jogging lang every weekends solve na. Make a lot of activities like these with your family.
5.Don’t be king – Help your wife at home -be a cook, driver, plumber, carpenter. Yes! If you go home and act like e a boss, then your family will be more happy to see you away, than boss them around. Remember that your kids always see you as a role model, and when they grew up and find a partner, he/she will look for someone awesome like you.